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The Founding Cohort

Learn to break the Self-Last Pattern with other moms.

Everything you need to know before applying — the schedule, what we'll actually cover, who this is for, and the honest answers to what you're probably wondering.

Length6 weeks
Founding rate$199
FormatVirtual — workshop and group coaching sessions
Spots10, max

What you'll walk away with

By the end of six weeks, you should:

  • Feel seen and less alone
  • Understand the Self-Last Pattern
  • Unwind the Self-Last Pattern in one area of your life
  • Identify what you actually want
  • Advocate for yourself
  • Begin rebuilding supportive systems
  • Leave with a next step, not a finish line

Notice that doesn't say "completely transformed." Six weeks is about changing direction, not finishing the journey.

Schedule

October 4 – November 8

  • First sessionSunday, October 4 — kickoff workshop
  • Last sessionSunday, November 8
  • Weekly sessionsEvery Sunday — 6 weeks total
  • Exact timeSet once applications close, based on what works for the group
  • WhereVirtual
  • Between sessionsA weekly check-in from me, plus access to each other in a private community
  • Missed a session?It's recorded — you won't lose the material through end of 2026
The 6-week arc

Every week, a small emotional shift

This isn't a curriculum to complete. It's a direction to change. Each week builds on an emotional shift, not just a topic — moving from seeing the pattern to trusting you won't fall back into it.

1Workshop
I see myself.
Name the Self-Last Pattern, the personhood vs. identity distinction, and the forces behind it. Everyone tells their story. Nobody's broken.
2Coaching
I matter, too.
Values, non-negotiables, and what actually lights you up — not what you're supposed to want.
3Coaching
I can ask for what I need.
Boundaries and advocacy — letting people sit with discomfort instead of managing it for them.
4Coaching
I can build a life that supports me.
Systems, applied to your real life — not productivity. Support.
5Coaching
I can become someone new without losing who I am.
Identity, joy, community — and modeling something different for your kids.
6Coaching
I won't disappear again.
Integration — what's changed, what's still unwinding, and what continues after in the private community.

Every session — 60 to 90 minutes

teaching, coaching, group discussion.

Not homework — a Weekly Experiment

Because experiments can't fail. They only teach.

Why this isn't about fixing yourself

Personhood, not identity

It's easy to mistake this for an identity problem — "I'm just a mom." It's not. It's a personhood problem: the basic recognition that your wants and needs matter, too.

That distinction matters, because identity work asks you to go find yourself. Personhood work asks something simpler and more immediate: to stop treating your own needs as optional.

The real forces at play

You are not the problem. The Self-Last Pattern is caused by real forces competing for your time, energy, and attention:

  • Cultural expectations
  • Family dynamics
  • Workplace structures
  • Economic pressure
  • Technology

Understanding those forces isn't about blame or victimhood. It's about giving you back your agency — the ability to act, not just endure.

"Sacrifice is part of motherhood.
Losing yourself shouldn't be."

You don't have to disappear to be a good mom.

Is this the right fit?

This is for you if

  • You're past the newborn/infant stage
  • You've been waiting for things to slow down, but they're not
  • You're tired of putting yourself last — but don't know where to start
  • You struggle with advocating for yourself
  • You want systems that make life easier — not more complicated

This may not be the right fit if

  • You're looking for instant results without changing your routines
  • You want rigid rules instead of flexible systems
  • You're unwilling to experiment and learn what works for your life
  • You're seeking medical advice or mental health services

Questions you're probably asking

Will this actually work for me?

Honestly? I don't know — I can't take away your 'hard'. But here's what I can share: what I learned breaking the Self-Last Pattern myself, the framework I used to systematically break it, a strategy for where to start making small changes, the mental shift that changed how I show up, and tips for supporting change and having the tough conversations that come with advocating for your needs. Plus a community of moms with the same struggles, so you know you're not alone.

What if I miss a live session?

Every session is recorded, so you won't lose the material even if you can't make it live. Material is available through the end of the year.

Is this therapy or coaching?

This is coaching, not therapy or medical advice. If you're seeking mental health services, this isn't the right fit — I'll always be honest about that.

What happens after the 6 weeks end?

Founding members get first access to what comes next as the program evolves — since your feedback is directly shaping what this becomes.

What's the refund/cancellation policy?

No refunds — but if you're seriously unhappy, reach out and we'll work something out together. Cancellations need 48 hours' notice. If you miss a live session, it'll be recorded so you don't lose the material.

Is there support outside of the live sessions?

Yes — I send a weekly check-in, and you'll have access to each other in a private community throughout the 6 weeks, not just during calls.

10 spots. 6 weeks.
Starts October 4, 2026.

Together, we'll build the program you deserved.

Apply to the Founding Cohort I read every application myself. You'll hear back within a couple of days.